I’m not perfect, no one is. But sometimes that’s easy to forget. We get so caught up in what the world tells us is perfect, and we all strive so hard to reach the unattainable goal.

I bring this up because, sometimes, people will make choices and decisions that may not make sense to you. But who are we to judge? I’m not talking about someone choosing to wear purple suspenders or cut their hair off. I’m talking major life decisions. You don’t need to understand them. Maybe they have a reason, maybe they don’t.  But it’s not up to us to make that call.

This is my best friend and her little  boy. She has metastatic cancer, and she is amazing. She is smart and funny and compassionate and brilliant. She is a fantastic mom. She is an amazing wife. And Wayne adores his mom, not because she’s perfect, but because she’s HIS Mom.

Why do I tell you this? Because in October of last year I left my fairly cushy government job (granted its as only 16 hours a week) to pursue my other job full time, because it allowed me the flexibility to spend my days with them.

We all make decisions in our life that other people aren’t going to understand. That’s ok. She is one of the people I love most in this world, and I am privileged to get to spend this time with her. I realize that not everyone can make a career change like this. Not everyone is able to leave job to spend time with their lived ones. But I did the math and I knew it would be possible. Scary, close, a little risky, but possible. I have to be extra careful to save my pennies and to watch my bank account. But it allows me to spend my days with my best friend. It allows me to pick up my nephew from school and go on adventures.  It allows me to be there. Today we napped (ok she napped and I watched TV), and some days we do even less.

I would not trade this experience for anything. And there is no job in the world that is worth more than what I have right now. They are my world. And I am so lucky to have this opportunity.

Please, hug the ones you love. Tell them often. Do what you need to do to make the right decision for YOU. No one has the right to judge you for those choices.